Never Been Kissed

And Proud of It

Published on March 26, 2004 By new-age nomad In Personal Relationships

That's right folks. I've never been kissed.

I view kissing as a sacred act---something with which you only share with someone you are deeply in love with. Maybe that makes me naive, but I don't care. I would never kiss someone I didn't love, and this has thrown many of my "boyfriends" (if you wanna call them that) for a loop.

I want the imaginary fireworks, I want the "I can't breath but I don't give a sh**" feeling, I want emotional stimulation. I want the guy to not care that I have chapped lips and a lip ring that may or may not get in the way. I want the world to stop; I want to feel like I could die after this and be ok with it. I do not want some cheap makeout session that I've been told is so fun.

I want you guys to share your first kiss stories with me, because well, I like to live vicariously. I don't want the sleezy stories I'm sure to get; I want the wonderful, "There's nothing in the world like a first kiss" stories. So please, comment away.

Trinitie

Comments (Page 5)

new-age nomad

on Mar 29, 2004

ohhh, and the ref takes a point away.

Trinitie

Dan Kaschel

on Mar 29, 2004

I love you Trin.

~Dan

new-age nomad

on Mar 29, 2004

You see everyone? Who wouldn't love someone like that?

Trinitie

Phantom of the Night

on Mar 29, 2004

I think you have a beautiful idea......but I do see one big potential problem.

Let's say you wait to find that special someone that you think will deliver fireworks, and rain thunder around you when he kisses, and YOU ACTUALLY FIND HIM!

What happens if he doesn't?

new-age nomad

on Mar 29, 2004

Could you please explain that in a clearer way? I'm really confused.

Trinitie

Phantom of the Night

on Mar 29, 2004

I think you have a beautiful idea, but I see one major flaw.

Let's say you wait to find that one special guy that you think will deliver you fireworks. Let's say that 7 months from now, you find this guy that you think will deliver your fireworks and you decide to kiss him.

What happens if there are no fireworks?

new-age nomad

on Mar 29, 2004

Alright, that's what I thought you meant. But when you're in love, there WILL be fireworks. I just know it...

Trinitie

KarmaGirl

on Mar 29, 2004

Karma and Dharma---I really did like your stories. Thank you for saying I'm special. But I have a short point to make:

You both say you can't remember your first kiss. What was the point of it then? Don't you think those kisses that you do remember would have been multiplied a thousand times in passion had they been the first? Just a thought.

I'm sure it was special at the time. But, how do you *know* how long a relationship will last? Hell, I was engaged before I met my husband. How was I to know that one wouldn't last. The older you get. the more memory junk you throw out. You store the stuff you need and want, and the rest goes gets dumped from memory. Once you are with your true love, it will make sense.

I have no regrets with my past. Just like you can't have happiness without sorrow, or good without bad, you won't know if a relationship (or kissing)is right unless you have experienced wrong.

KarmaGirl

on Mar 29, 2004

Reply #67 By: new-age nomad - 3/29/2004 1:29:10 AM
Alright, that's what I thought you meant. But when you're in love, there WILL be fireworks. I just know it...

What if he's not in love with you and is just looking for action and you just don't know it? Men can be tricky little buggers

PoetPhilosopher

on Mar 29, 2004

ROFL What a funny blog.

Solitair

on Mar 29, 2004

Trinity,

I am all in agreement with not dolling out kisses to just anyone. But I do worry that you may be reserving yourself a bit too much.

You need to realise though that the right man at any point in time the man who creates those fireworks for you the man, may not alway be the right man long term. People change over time and close couples who had something special can grow apart. In my case this is often because they didn't have the experience and emotional maturity necessary. Both of these are necessary to recognise relationships types, and also to deal with issues within relationships. We all fall in love many times. Sometimes it's a physical attraction, sometimes it's a loving emotion, sometimes it's a special friendship. They can all lead to happiness, but all need to be worked upon, and previous experiences greatly help.

Hopefully when you find that Mr. right, he will indeed be Mr. right and it will last for ever, but experience dictates that it will take many close calls before you're there. Experience is what makes you sure, when you can compare your current mr. right with the previous possible mr. right and realise that the current one is better. Experience is what allows you deal with the problem and stop something special dying away. Without this experience it is easy to get swept away with the wrong person. You may need this experience and kissing people and dealing with the emotional attachment that comes from it is important.

I'm not saying start kissing everyone you just like, but I am saying I'd recommend kissing anyone you really like and who you think may be special. Maybe they'll be the one, maybe not, but you will enjoy the memories, gain the emotion experience and never regret that kiss. Kissies should be special, but not necessarily unique.

Paul.

KarmaGirl

on Mar 29, 2004

I think that each person has to decide the time and place that is right for them to enter into emotional bonds. A few years can make a big difference in how you feel. You may also fall in love with somebody, kiss them, and realize that there just isn't that spark that you are looking for (you're "love" may be more friendship than anything). You may also kiss somebody that you've only known for a short time and realize that you are in love with them. I guess you really won't know that until you actually do it, though.

Dan Kaschel

on Mar 29, 2004

"close couples who had something special can grow apart"

There's this thing called "committment" that's been largely forgotten.

"But when you're in love, there WILL be fireworks. I just know it..."

Dangerous thing to say in a place that runs rampant with jaded cynics.

"What if he's not in love with you and is just looking for action and you just don't know it? Men can be tricky little buggers "

Even a child is known by his actions, by whether his conduct is good and right. Integrity is recognisable.

~Dan

new-age nomad

on Mar 29, 2004

Though I fear saying this because of that whole "committment" thing Dan mentioned, I never said it was sure to last if I kissed a guy. All I said is I would have to love him.

Trinitie

Dan Kaschel

on Mar 30, 2004

"Though I fear saying this because of that whole "committment" thing Dan mentioned, I never said it was sure to last if I kissed a guy. All I said is I would have to love him."

The conversation is no longer centered on your article. Move on, Trin. Move on... *voice fades in distance*

~Dan

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