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Oh How I Dread Dating
Published on February 12, 2005 By new-age nomad In Dating

I recently started college, and although there are far too many similarities to high school for my taste, the differences are confounding.  I decided to attend, not only to achieve my aspirations, but because of a profound desire to be surrounded by the beautiful minds of the future.  I realize that it’s cliché for me to presume that all great minds would choose further academic education, or even that there would be any insightful students at all on campus, but I figure it’s as good a place to start as any.

 

I’m generally a very outspoken person, but it seems to be an even more prominent trait when I’m in a classroom setting.  Many of the males in my classes are under the assumption that intelligence must be the catalyst for any type of gregarious personality. Consequently, guys inquiring about my previous education have approached me on numerous occasions, and their curiosity leaves me a bit edgy.  It is not my intention to create the false notion that I’m intellectually superior in any way, so when someone invites me out under these false pretenses, I usually decline.  The fear of anyone being let down because of my obvious ignorance on so many levels hinders me from any relationship with anyone of possible interest, considering my interest in the scholar. 

 

I don’t date much, and it’s not for lack of proposals.  I simply do not understand America’s method of dating.  Romance has become a thing of fantasies, attributable to pseudo-reason and jaded hearts.  Proposals to rendezvous have become comparable to business meetings where one must be completely confident of another’s interest in them before taking any sort of risk.   I can’t comprehend the idea that it’s possible to get to know someone on what we so nonchalantly refer to as a “date”, that is if the human spirit is even knowable.  As a side note, the downfall of all relationships in America could easily be credited to the false concept of relating to someone else without first knowing oneself.

 

I was recently invited to a concert by a casual acquaintance whom I know perceives me as gifted beyond my actual mental capacity (he flipped when he found out I failed an exam).  I would desperately like to grace him with my presence, especially since, as he so blatantly phrased it, “it would be a sin not to attend if I have any appreciation for the arts”.  Maybe I’m an overly analytical nut, but there do seem to be a few roadblocks.  He would not only be requesting my presence under the theory that I’m slightly intelligent, but with the hope that our relationship might turn into more.

 

 What’s wrong with that?  Only the fact that nothing about the guy makes me swoon, and although many would retort with reason congruent to me being the one to make the guy swoon, I’m just not that amazing.  I need to be swept off my feet, no matter how many of you out there disagree and think that “chemistry” doesn’t exist.

 

Along with all this, I refer to myself as a Christian, for lack of a better term.  Where am I going to find an intelligent Christian who sweeps me off my feet (and isn’t initially scared off by the lip ring)? 

 

I need someone to remind me how to fly in my dreams.

 

Trinitie


Comments
on Feb 13, 2005
This is my favorite line:

I don’t date much, and it’s not for lack of proposals

You got them lining up or something?

I loved the article Trin. I'm glad your'e writing again.
on Feb 14, 2005
Hey,
You crack me up. I think that you should only date, or go somewhere with someone, if they are the person that you could marry, or in your words makes you swoon. I hope that you have luck with deciding wether or not you are going to go with him.
Aloha
on Feb 14, 2005

I am going to go with him, reason being (as cliche as it is) life is short.

The intention of the article was not to "crack you up", butthead.  Lol

Tenille, yes, there's a line out the door, butthead.

Trinitie

on Feb 14, 2005
You can't use the word butthead twice in one response!
on Feb 16, 2005
oh but you can! lol
on Feb 16, 2005

Oh, "Who is it?", you missed out on a great humorous statement.

Oh, BUTT you can.   

Trinitie

on Feb 16, 2005
Heh, nice article! You make it sound as if all dates are calculated in advance in a scheme to make people fall in love...

People just need to take it easy, and learn to take chances without fearing failure.
on Mar 04, 2005

My point exactly, ig.  And, dates are calculated in advance.....

Trinitie

on Mar 25, 2005
Along with all this, I refer to myself as a Christian, for lack of a better term. Where am I going to find an intelligent Christian who sweeps me off my feet (and isn’t initially scared off by the lip ring)?

I think this is hilarious, and it occurs to me that not many would understand the nuances of what you mean.

It also occurs to me that I may not have let Dan know that you called a week or so ago. Sorry.

Tractorman
on Jun 22, 2005

Hey!!!!

It's ok, Paul.  I call enough for him to catch up.

Trinitie

on Jun 23, 2005
Wow, you're smart, I like you. While I must admit that all those that seem to be wise will certainly agree that they are ignorant, it seems to me that the more you learn the more questions you have. You are at the beginning of your college career I'm at the middle and I can vehemently tell you that you will undergo changes in your persona the more knowledge you acquire. Chemistry certainly does exit whether on an ethereal or biological level, you can meet people that make your stomach feel funny.

As a side note, the downfall of all relationships in America could easily be credited to the false concept of relating to someone else without first knowing oneself.



You're lucky to figure this out at such an early age. Many people will go their whole life without knowing this simple fact of life. When I see young couples at age 18 getting married I feel they are crazy. Who you are at 18 is rarely who you will be at 36. Some people seek out those that will damage them or treat them unfairly simply because that is the only ones they feel attracted to. You should take some psych classes. Peace